Gay Confusion
Written by Confusion support on January 11, 2008 – 6:29 pm -
One of our readers writes:
I’m confused about gay attraction. Perhaps I’m not familiar enough with the culture to have an accurate perception, but in many of the gay couples I’ve seen represented on television shows, including reality type shows, and with some I’ve known personally, it seems that at least one of the involved individuals exhibits many characteristics of the opposite sex. So, I’m left to wonder why the other individual isn’t attracted to the opposite sex instead.
Let me state here that I believe a person’s sexual preference is determined by nature and not chosen. I certainly don’t recall making a conscious choice to be heterosexual, but simply turned out that way. I imagine the same can be said for homosexuals.
Nonetheless, why would a gay man, who appears to be quite masculine in looks and mannerisms, be attracted to a gay man with effeminate characteristics? Conversely, why would a gay woman who appears to be characteristically feminine be attracted to a woman who both looks and dresses like a man? I would think that the only truly gay attraction for both individuals involved in the relationship would be masculine man to masculine man and feminine woman to feminine woman. But I claim no expertise in the subject. Perhaps the psychology behind sexual attraction is too complex for anyone to understand.
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January 22nd, 2008 at 6:43 am
I’ve often wondered the same thing, and could only conclude that it must boil down to the physical sex part of it (at least in the case of men). A gay man obviously is turned off by ” physical activity” with a female and is turned on by the male body (not mind), and that is the essence of the male “gay feelings”. Mentally, gay men seem to get along better with women than men. So for gay men I think they are leaning more toward attraction in a sexual way and not mental.
As for gay women, there seems to be more factors involved, and a mix of mental and physical emotions, which is why it seems more gay women are bi-sexual on occasion than gay men are.
It does seem like a complex thing to try and figure out, so I am only speculating as well.